Don't get me wrong...

I'm not in favor of operationalizing definitions, either teleologically (what you really want is determined by what you in fact receive) or functionally (what you really want is what one could reasonably expect from someone doing exactly what it is that you are doing). I'm willing to say what you want is, typically, what you want, and it is a purely internal affair, not at all to be determined in a behaviorist manner.

I just don't think most people actually know what it is that they really want. And that the state of affairs we find ourselves in is typically a fair reflection of what we want.

People who don't know, want to be ignorant. People who don't understand, want to be confused. People who don't do better than they are, don't want to work at making themselves better.

Or maybe I'm wasting time....